50's Household vs Master / slave

As a Master I often get asked, how it works, how the relationships work the power dynamics form...and why on earth I would chose something so out of the norm. So I thought I would FINALLY get round to explaining myself.

Firstly I would like to talk a bit about "normal" relationships. We have been brought up that the Man is the breadwinner, he is the head of the household and controls the roost. Below him is the dutiful Wife who will look after her man because she is secure. However, lately we have seen that often its not the Man who takes this role Women can be just as strong as Men. But normally what you will find is that, and its often a running joke if this position is filled by the Woman, that there is one person who "wears the trousers". This person has the deciding vote, they are the strong one who while they may not be motherly takes care of their partner.

We have all been brought up with this idea and format in our lives, our parents may follow it, or we see it on TV and in history books.

While some people would argue that this form of partnership can be unhealthy, I disagree (obviously there are exceptions but...ya know) I think that you will find that often these 2 people will compliment each other. The one who "wears the trousers" will stand up for, will care for if needed and will hopefully make the other person more confident. While the slightly more submissive (see what I did there) person will calm down and again care for their Partner...2 sides of a coin each one completing each other.

Think back, look at the relationships you may have or be in that work well or friends you see who are in relationships and see how they work, you may see some similarities.

So, what do I do that's so different. Well I am a Master, I own a slave. I hear you all gasping with horror picturing some roman style slave with no self worth in total fear of me.

Master / slave relations do not work that way. Admittedly there are a percentage of both Masters and slaves out there who want it to work like that, but for the MAJORITY of them it doesn't. For the majority of people the M/s relationships are kinder, more nurturing than say the Victorian husband and wife ones.
Relationships break up for many reasons, but when I look back at my relationships I see confusions. I was in gay relationships and there was always that confusion over where we fitted in...I think people feel the need to be either the trouser wearer in the relationship or not, and there can be pressure to be seen as the one in charge...which can cause arguments if you or your partner are stubborn...if you feel that just, something isn't quite right...and you arnt sure what to expect of each other

What the M/s community have done is effectively set out the boundaries. Most relationships have a power imbalance, we just recognise that. Its not always a full on slave giving away all of his control to the Master, there are gradients.
I know and have always known I am a Master. I know and accept that means that I have taken on responsibility for my slave...and dint let anyone tell you that isn't a frightening thing at times. YOU and YOU SOLELY have the responsibility for that person...its like having a baby (in a non freaky, non AB play way (no my slave does NOT wear a nappy and if he did i would split up with him) its a similar level of responsibility) Yes, my slave is an adult, which means he does think for himself, but in times of trouble he knows I am there to look after him...and its my job to see him through

We have been together for 2 years now, and (i believe partly because of our relationship style) we have not had a blazing row. This isnt to say that he doesnt get on my last nerve at times...or me him...we do. But becase we know where our roles lie it gives us strength in our relationship.

He knows that he is absolutly loved by me, and as I own him I do adore and look after him. I know that as he is my slave and because he loves me, he will do anything for me. Yes that does leave the slave open to abuse but while all relationships are based on trust, M/s relationship need far stronger trust. The more control you have over somone the deeper they need to be able to trust you before they give you that control. Everything should be consentual...and the slave needs to know before they give up the control to the Master that the Master will not abuse that trust and control.

Now im not saying that EVERYONE should suddenly pick a side and stick with it. I am saying however that if you have always felt that you needed to either look after and take care of your partner, possibly to an extent that you didnt think would go down well...or if the reverse is true then think it over. Talk to somone in a M/s relationship and if you dont but you just see one of us around...just think, we arnt that abnormal. Dont confuse M/s relationships with old men in leather who like to just abuse people...look a little deeper

ps...some of us are..but meh :P